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These are just some of the many unity type ceremonies out there. You may use any of these, or come up with something different.
Tie The Knot
This old Irish tradition, the bride and groom ties a fisherman's knot with ribbon to symbolize a bond that, rather than break under pressure becomes stronger.g the knot is a primary wedding ceremony whereby a couple ties a fisherman's knot as their unity ceremony. It is used after the exchanges of vows and rings. The couple, using large colored cords, ties this knot as the officiant reads a commentary.
A simple unity ceremony where the bride and groom exchange roses. Other variations: the families exchange roses, the bride and groom exchange roses with their families, the bride and groom exchange roses then present their mothers with the roses, select guests get a rose before the ceremony begins and then are asked to place in a circle end to end during the ceremony.
Similar to the water ceremony, the bride and groom both pour different colored sand into a glass.
Broom jumping is an African-American tradition that has its roots in slavery times when slaves couldn't marry. Typically, the family places the broom on the ground, and the bride and groom jump over it together. The broom can then decorate a place of honor in their home.
The couple each pour a different colored water into a single glass, creating a third color.
In traditional Mexican, Filipino, and Spanish culture, couples can celebrate unity through a lasso ceremony, or el lazo ceremony. After the couple recites their vows, an officiant, parent, or relative drapes two linked rosaries or one floral rope across the bride and groom's shoulders in the form of a figure eight, which represents the couple's unity. The couple then wears the lasso for the duration of the service until the person who placed it on the couple removes it and gives it to the bride as a reminder of their commitment to each other.
The couple will brand whatever they desire into a piece of wood during the ceremony with a branding iron.
Create a Time Capsule
Place meaningful items—like a bottle of wine created during the year you first met, a favorite set of poems, or a poignant keepsake—into a box and help each other nail it shut. This modern ceremony is about togetherness, both at the time of the capsule's creation (take turns hammering!) and at it's opening, on your one year anniversary.
One of the most common ceremonies. The bride and groom each take a lit candle and simultaneously light a third larger "unity candle." They may blow out their individual lights, or leave them lit, symbolizing that they have not lost their individuality in their unity. The parents or moms of the couple may also light the smaller candles before or during the ceremony. Stores are now selling elaborate unity candle setups, including a candelabra that holds the central unity candle higher than the others. You may also have your unity candle personalized with your names and the date, allowing it to be a keepsake from your wedding
Garland or Lei
The bride and groom exchange garlands of flowers. This is a common part of Indian weddings, where the ceremony is called varmala or jaimala, and represents a proposal by the bride and acceptance by the groom. It also represents their new unity, blessed by nature. In Hawaiian weddings, the bride and groom typically exchange leis. The families may also exchange leis with the couple. Leis represent the love and respect you have for the person you are giving it to, and the unity of the new family.
The bride and groom tear off pieces of bread, and then each eat a piece. Sometimes the bread is also shared with family and friends. It symbolizes their future as a family together.
The bride and groom each take a carafe of wine and pour it into a single glass, which they both drink from.
Participate in the ancient Celtic practice of "handfasting," or tying hands together. The bride and groom hold opposite hands (so their arms make a figure eight—representing eternity). Then, their hands are tied together with ribbon to symbolize a union. You could even use heirloom fabric to make it even more meaningful
Plant A Tree
During the ceremony, the bride and groom should place soil from two separate containers on top of the planting, representing two individuals coming together as one.
The act of washing your spouse's feet (or their hands, if you prefer!) symbolizes the release of any past emotional blocks, so both parties can enter the marriage with open hearts. This cleansing ceremony works especially well in outdoor weddings where messiness is not a concern. Indoors, couples can hold their hands over a bowl or share a goblet of water to symbolize the purity of love.
The couple will take a shot of their favorite alcoholic beverage.